REAL TALK (new series)
1.I was at lunch with a good friend yesterday and we talked about where we lived before NY + CT and how both of us ended up here. It made me think about how far we’ve come and the struggles. I told her about moving to Chicago to start Dennis’s MBA program at Kellogg (NorthWestern’s business school). We had zero, and I mean zero dollars to our name. LOL. We bought a tan rusty 1980 corolla (for $400) to drive to the grocery store and when we wanted to take little Davis (2) and Gwen (baby) to the Lincoln Park Zoo. We had big dreams of moving to NYC to start Dennis’ career and live on the east coast. We didn’t have any money but we had each other and lots of dreams. Life was simple and HAPPY. We worked really, really hard. On really hard days we both looked at each other and wanted to move back to AZ (where we grew up). I also talked more with my girlfriend yesterday about coming from a broken home. I need to share more on this topic. I sure wish I had someone to talk to or hear from when I went through it. I had a few rough years putting myself through college and finding my own path when I was 18. At one point I even moved in with my aunt and uncle while I sorted through my emotions and figured next steps. I worked two jobs in college to pay my own rent and schooling (waitressing is no joke). If someone ever mistreats a waitress around me, I will drop kick them through the door, lol. It’s HARD! I’ve had to work for what I have. I don’t ever want anyone to think that I was handed anything. (well…I was handed “D” my hubby is my biggest blessing of all) I know the downs all too well and I understand (and have so much empathy) when you guys write in about what you struggle with. My biggest advice is to keep your head up, lean on God, and talk about your dreams out LOUD. You have to say them out loud. Pray about them and talk about them. You can make anything happen if you work hard at it. I’ll be sharing more of my back story. I think it’s important. I want to help anyone I can. I know fashion is fun but I want (more than anything) to help you guys or inspire or even be a friend when you need it.
2. Sometimes I learn the hard way. But more than ever I’m learning to trust my gut feelings. Don’t second guess yourself. There is always a reason for your feelings. Don’t ever let anyone tell you different.
3.My girls have been off and on sick this week. Dennis is traveling (gets home today!) we have had a couple all nighters fighting fevers. In between working and juggling being a mom the only thing that helps me keep up with all of it is the one hour I spend working out. I’m sure on my instagram it appears that all I do is shop, wear cute clothes and workout. Don’t ever let instagram fool you. Instagram is my job. I have people I have to answer to. Numbers, goals and analytics that track my performance. Brands that expect certain things from me. I’m struggling with all the same things you guys are. I’m actually headed to my first Fashion Week show in a couple hours and my hair won’t be washed. I’ll use half a bottle of dry shampoo and hope my deodorant kicks in. My girls are home sick and I’m trying to work, get ready and lay with them as much as possible because I know that MOM GUILT will set in when I’m away from them.
4.We are in the process of buying our first home. It’s emotional. I have commitment issues. LOL. I think one is perfect and then I freak out. I get anxiety over decision making. I have had a lot of lavender baths the last two weeks. That calms me the most. What do you guys do for anxiety?
5.I’ve been boxing once a week. I can’t tell you how fun it is. Have you tried something new to challenge you lately? I’m learning I need to push myself out of that comfort zone more than I let myself.
6.Blogging advice – This is something I asked about daily. The answer isn’t an easy one. Stay consistent, it might take a couple years to gain traction but you can do it! You might need to keep your day job while your blog grows (don’t let that discourage you). It took me almost two years to get that first big paycheck from blogging. Hire the right people. Find someone to help you build your website or take a class all about SEO and other ways to keep your user growth up online. Create mood boards and use a content calendar. I was the worst about using a content calendar. I started to grow the most when my content was thought out weeks ahead of time. Stay in your own lane. Don’t let what others do influence your work. everyone can fit on the internet. Just be you and it will work out!
7.Okay…..I want to start the conversation. USING a surrogate. I can’t get pregnant. My third (Chloe) was a preemie and I had complications. I’ve had to have three c-sections to deliver. I’m so grateful for the three healthy and safe deliveries we have had. I started becoming open to the idea of having a surrogate last year. It seems to be more common than ever. We have been looking into it but still get anxious about the thought of someone else carrying my baby. I’d love to know your stories (if you want to open up) if you have experienced this. I’m not saying I’m going to do this 100% but I am saying it’s on my mind and something we are considering.
Questions about my hair are answered here- HAIR 101
bodysuits I love –
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